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Writer's pictureNikhil Badkundri

Untangling self-worth and value

Updated: Apr 4

People outsource self-worth and value to something they do. They are not transient rather inherent; they do not change.

Self-worth and value are inherent qualities that do not stem from external factors or achievements. Often, individuals base their self-worth and value on what they do, such as their job, status, or performance in activities such as sports. However, this external validation can be harmful, particularly in the case of athletes, where a focus on performance and winning can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.

Athletes are often under pressure to perform at their best, both from coaches and spectators. While striving for excellence is admirable, it can become all-consuming, leading to a focus on outcomes rather than the journey itself. This focus on winning and success can be detrimental to an athlete's mental health and well-being as it places a significant amount of pressure to perform.

Moreover, athletes may feel like their worth and value are defined by how well they perform in their sport. This notion can rob them of the opportunity to grow as individuals and prioritize self-care. For instance, if an athlete bases their sense of self-worth solely on their sports achievements, they may prioritize their sport over their health and relationships. This can lead to burnout, physical injuries, and difficulties creating meaningful relationships outside of their sports activities. A slippery slope post-retirement.

Similarly, defining self-worth based on performance can lead to a volatile relationship with one's identity. Athletes who define themselves in terms of sport may struggle to develop a strong sense of self as they may view themselves entirely in terms of their sport. This narrow view of their identity can lead to feelings of emptiness and depression when they are unable to perform or lose a game.

It is essential to recognize that sports performance, like any external metric, should not define an individual's self-worth or value. The worth of an individual is intrinsic and should not be linked to any external validation. Instead, athletes should focus on developing a growth mindset that values their journey rather than the outcome. Success and growth are not linear, and athletes will experience ups and downs in their sports journey.

Focusing on the journey allows athletes to invest in their mental health, wellness, and relationships outside of their sports activities. Engaging in activities that promote a healthy lifestyle can benefit an athlete's performance on the field/court or in the pool. This, in turn, enhances the overall sense of well-being, leading to a more satisfying life.

It is crucial to note that self-worth and value are not static qualities. They are fluid and can change over time. Therefore, defining oneself solely based on sports performance is short sighted and fails to capture the entirety of an individual's experiences and potential. Instead, athletes should focus on cultivating qualities such as patience, resilience, and perseverance, which will positively impact their growth and development, both on and off the field.

Additionally, it's important to recognize that performance in sports is relative, and athletes should not compare themselves to others. Each athlete has their unique journey and experiences that will shape their performance. Comparison to others can lead to negative feelings such as jealousy, anxiety and can lead to self-doubt. Instead, athletes should focus on their progress and growth and celebrate their achievements holistically rather than isolating sports performance as their primary marker of success.

In conclusion, athletes must recognize that their self-worth and value are not determined solely by their sports achievements. Focusing on the journey, prioritizing mental health and well-being, and valuing personal growth and development are critical in building a healthy and fulfilling life. Success is relative, and athletes should celebrate their achievements holistically rather than hinging their sense of worth on external validation of their sports achievements.


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